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Quietus: Amy Winehouse 5 years gone

Mars Blomgren

Mars Blomgren

Maureen "Mars" Blomgren is a writer, photographer, painter, social media overlord. Mars is a loyal servant to her Pekingese named Henry. She's had her work used for album covers, posters, commissioned paintings, branding, merchandise and more. Mars has one of those new-fangled #blendedfamilies that she loves. Mars supports & promotes live music, animals and the truth. She is a proud Philly Girl that will defend the underdog till the end.
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“There’s no point in saying anything but the truth.” – Amy Winehouse

Credit: The Official Amy Winehouse Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/amywinehouse

Credit: The Official Amy Winehouse Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/amywinehouse

I wonder what becomes of talent wasted, cut down in the prime of life, never to be heard live again. Oh sure, you can say, “But the music lives forever” and yes, of course the music lives forever, the music that was created during a brief span of time will be played eternally for generations to come. What makes this writer the most sad and angry when a life is cut short, is grieving for what could have been and what will never be.

Amy Winehouse Courtesy of: Amy The Movie

Amy Winehouse Courtesy of: Amy The Movie

For the most part many people will say the same things, “Oh so talented to die so young”, “What a tragic waste of life”, “Why didn’t someone do something to help her or him for that matter”? Words, for the most part, that are simply said because people in general do not know what to say when someone dies, especially when that someone is an immense talent, or hell, even if that someone was just the crazy cat lady neighbor next door. We get stymied within our own fears of death; having no idea what to do or what to say to the ones left behind so we grasp for the phrases many have said before us, “ R.I.P Amy Winehouse”, “You’ll be missed”, “Music lives forever”, etc., etc., etc.

I don’t know about you, the reader, but me personally? I am tired of people dying tragically in my own life, in my work and ones who are my heroes. I am tired of saying the same old clichés. I’d like to focus on the one phrase that can perhaps save someone’s life. “Why didn’t someone do something to help them?” I have been practicing this for quite some time now and I’d like to share with you my mantra: Be kind, work hard, and love all humans and animals. It’s a simple mantra but one that requires action. Sometimes it’s a tiny gesture – to hold the door for someone, perhaps smile towards a stranger, even just being polite in your daily doings is part of it – but being kind can also require immense actions, some of which can be scary and intimidating.

That is why I think more people choose the simple road rather than the hard road. Sometimes we have to really look at the people surrounding us, the people in our lives, the strangers on the street, the girl sitting on the park bench alone, the man on the sidewalk with his dog asking for a dollar so he can eat, sometimes we really have to stop and ask these people how they are. Not just a casual “How are you?” but a genuine, sincere question that demands an answer, a truthful one. With that answer is how we carry out our acts of kindness.

Maybe, just maybe, had enough people who cared asked Amy Winehouse how she was over and over then acted on her answers, perhaps she would still be here today. Sometimes helping someone could backfire, that person may see what you are doing to help them is hindering them because in the throes of addiction everything is hazy; it is difficult to see what is real, what is not, who really cares and who does not. You may even be cut out of that person’s life but…saving their life as opposed to not being in it is a simple choice for me.

Amy Winehouse Courtesy of: Amy The Movie

Amy Winehouse Courtesy of: Amy The Movie

Perhaps had enough people who were willing to be brutally truthful when they asked Prince how he was, maybe he would still be here. Maybe had I asked the love of my life, Scoop, just one more time and acted just one more time more than the thousands I had already done for him, maybe just maybe he would still be here too. If you care about yourself then you care about other people. Ask them, “How are you?” and be prepared to take action when you get the answer.

I wish I had known Amy Winehouse, I would have meant it when I said “How are you Amy?” and I would have been prepared to act on the answer to save her.

Amy Jade Winehouse     September 14, 1983 – July 23, 2011

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